Day in and day out you do the same things over and again, and your routine becomes mundane.
After a while you realize you aren’t making any real progress.
You feel stuck. You feel bored. You feel guilty. Something is definitely off.
It’s a stage we all go through from time to time, and it’s not a great feeling.
It appears to your family and friends that you have your act together and things are going well. It appears that you feel comfortable and you like your routines. To them it appears there is no pressure, no tension.
In fact, they may be a little jealous because they see you relaxing and seeming to coast through life.
But the truth is that’s not the real story.
While you are grateful for all of the many good things you have going for you, deep down, you’re unsatisfied.
You have this feeling of not being fulfilled. Things just aren’t exciting anymore, and you don’t know why.
So what is the problem?
It comes down to the way our minds work. Our minds aren’t designed to coast.
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Causes of a Lack of Motivation
There are many reasons we get discouraged and lose our motivation. It can happen at any age or stage of life.
Some of the reasons are:
Dwelling on the Past
Past failures, disappointments, and losses can be really hard to deal with.
But no matter how much we wish things could have been different, the only chance we have to make things better for ourselves is to accept what happened and start moving forward from where we are with what we have.
No one likes rejection.
Over time, we lose our desire to try in an effort to avoid it.
Instead, we must see rejection as an opportunity to learn, adjust, and improve.
Many people struggle with this issue.
Our to-do lists keep getting longer with no end in sight, and we become paralyzed.
To keep making progress, we must set boundaries, eliminate distractions, and focus on priorities.
Have you ever noticed the longer you put something off, the harder it is to get it done? That’s because inaction fuels procrastination.
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Not Taking Care of Yourself
It’s important to take care of our own physical needs.
Are you getting enough sleep? Are you eating well? Are you eating often enough?
Make sure you’re giving your body what it needs so that it can think and function properly.
Fear of Failure
There will always be risk involved when you’re going for something big.
Do some research, talk to others who have done it before, and find out what you’re up against.
Without Motivation, Talent is Useless
If you have no motivation, this is a problem you need to fix immediately! If you don’t, you will waste your time and your talent.
You could be incredibly talented, have the best contacts, and have a ton of experience, but they aren’t going to do you any good if you aren’t using them.
All of these things are like cooking ingredients sitting on the shelf in your pantry.
Until you get a recipe and make something with them, they are useless.
When your life is out of focus, your internal engine is switched off.
That’s no way to go through life. That’s not living life, that’s wasting life.
Motivation Improves Performance in All Areas
We see it in sports all the time.
The season starts, and the team starts winning. They like the feeling. They start to believe more and more in each other, and with each victory their dreams and expectations for the season expand.
The result is that they all start to take their jobs, their preparation, and their practices much more seriously. As their intensity and effort increase, their happiness does as well.
College football is a great example.
During the season, between practice, classes, studying, and team meetings, there is not a minute to spare.
The players are constantly on the run, but they don’t mind because they are headed for a championship.
Their performance peaks in spite of the fact that there doesn’t seem to be enough time for anything.
Inevitably, the season ends. Regardless of whether they won or not, they head into the off-season.
From an outsider’s point of view, you’d naturally assume their grades would go up because they have more time for class and studying. Their schedules have really cleared up, so they can focus on academics.
So what is the result? Do their grades go up?
No. Just the opposite.
Invariably, college football players’ grades go down in the off-season.
It’s hard to explain.
Maybe they just need some time to recover. They certainly have less supervision forcing them to attend class and study.
But one thing is for sure. Their intensity and focus drops because the season is over.
Without a goal, they are less motivated to devote time to their studies.
Action Generates Motivation
People look everywhere for motivation—podcasts, books, blogs. That’s why $10 billion is spent every year on self-improvement alone.
But external motivation doesn’t last long.
If you want to get motivated and stay motivated, you must make a plan and put it into action.
Action generates motivation. The more you do, the more you want to do.
It feels good to be in control of your own life and to accomplish the things you set out to do.
Get Your Mojo Back
To get started, you need to set a goal.
Start by focusing on where you want to go, who you want to be, and what gets you excited.
Then narrow down your choices for the first step in that direction.
1. Clarify Your Priorities
What’s really important to you?
Getting out of debt and having financial freedom so you never have to worry about paying bills again?
Supporting your family and being able to take them on exotic vacations?
Owning your own business so you can have a flexible schedule and take off whenever you want?
For me, it was primarily being able to support my family. That was nonnegotiable because if I didn’t bring home the money, we weren’t going to eat.
But I also had a personal driving motivation that seemed to overpower almost everything else in that I didn’t want to be under anyone’s thumb and have someone bossing me around for the rest of my life.
I needed to be in control of my life—not some company.
2. Evaluate Your Current Path
Now that you’ve thought about your priorities, think about your current situation.
- What’s currently holding you back from what you really want?
- What areas do you need to improve in?
- Are there any big changes you need to make?
3. Decide on a Goal that Excites You
Write down a few options you could get really excited about, and then circle the one that is most in line with your priorities and vision of the future.
4. Do the First Step
Pick something small and achievable that you can do now to get started.
Take advantage of your energy and excitement and use it to propel you forward one step at a time.
Make the Decision to Go For It
This is what works for me, and it’s what works for other high achievers too.
In fact, this is exactly what Bill Orender, a leader in Primerica, did to get his life moving in the right direction.
Like most of us, he grew up in a blue-collar family. They were fine, hard-working people who expected Bill to grow up and wind up working at the factory just like them.
But unfortunately, they had a TV…
When young Bill saw people on television living lives far beyond what he saw in real life, a lightbulb went on in his head.
There was absolutely nothing wrong with the life he grew up in, but he was captivated by something more.
There was a moment for him when he was growing up that he said, “I don’t want to live my life like this.”
He made that decision to go for more, and it gave him energy—it gave him a focus and motivation and resulted in him excelling in areas where he had floundered and failed before.
That’s the great thing about living in a free country. You can make those decisions about your life. You don’t just have to take the hand that you are dealt.
It’s Time to Start Living
Many of us are afraid to set goals.
We think that once we set a goal that means we can’t change it or we’ll be quitters.
Some of us have set goals in the past that we haven’t reached, so now we say ‘why bother?’
To really start living, you’ve got to get over your goal setting fears and hesitation.
Even if you’ve set goals before and lost your motivation along the way, this will work if you do all the steps and follow through with action.
Goal setting is just like anything in life. The more you do it, the better you get at it.
Whenever you find yourself with no energy, no goals, no excitement, say to yourself, ‘This isn’t going to work. What is it that I could get excited about right now?’
Follow the steps above and start moving in the direction you want to go. As soon as you do, your internal engine will come alive, and your spirits will be lifted.
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